"When you control a man’s thinking, you don’t have to worry about his actions. You don’t have to send him to the back door. He will go without being told. In fact there is no back door, he will cut one for his special benefit.
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"God hear my prayer… see the words on this page. I pray again for trust in you. I also pray for confidence in myself worth as a strong, beautiful, black woman who is capable of anything she puts her mind to. There is no excuse as to why I was made and how I was made. I am here so I must be!
~TT~"
Waiting on the day when all my dreams will come true… perhaps it won’t be just one day but that moment in time is what I look forward to. That’s what motivates me. Even when one dream has been fulfilled I still look toward the sky because a person like me doesn’t just dream one dream. No I have plenty.
I have this picture in my house and it just reminds me that someday all of my dreams will come true!
EOGs…End Of Grade - Self Examination
As I bonded with a few kids this week through wholesome, uplifting conversation these are the things that came to mind:
Parents we need to take care of our children. Yes it takes a village to raise a child but we have to be WILLING to do everything we can for our children first. Our kids come into this world helpless and still remain helpless because we leave them to fend for themselves.
We fail to pass down vital generational KNOWLEDGE thus our kids grow up with a lack of history for their country and people to whom they belong. Their view of being GROWN and MATURE is then misconstrued and twisted. We indirectly teach our kids how to be grown too early through media and encourage the rapid growth of fitting in and living beyond our means because we don’t teach maturity and self-discipline.
As a once oppressed people, we moved from an open-minded perspective to being a self centered and selfish in order to obtain OUR OWN individual goals. Forgetting that anything worth attainable in life is not done alone. We all feed off of something. Some are introverted while others are extroverted. Regardless of your ‘PERSON’ality we all have someone or something in which we rely on when times get tough.
In order for us to succeed we’ve got to look beyond ourselves. Yes our individual, personal matters matter, nevertheless we must always be willing to pursue something bigger than ourselves.
Education lies within but is not limited to the classroom.
It’s something as simple as practicing ABC’s & reading to your child even before they reach school age.
It’s reliving your childhood as you help your child discover the world and life as they see it.
It’s about not being afraid to be transparent and share your mistakes and what you’ve learned from them, so that teens don’t feel alone and can see you (the parent) as one who truly has been there and done that.
It’s about extending love in the best way you know how.
~TT~
"It’s nice to see people age. However aging gracefully doesn’t always mean that life’s been good to them. To me it means that they had the guts to go against the odds and Keep Moving Forward. Make up in their mind to put aside the foolishness and focus on important things: taking care of business and enjoying themselves at the same time."
"It’s funny “the golden rule” whoever has the gold makes the rules…"
"The powers to be are satisfied with the services that we give. When the powers to be who control a pocketbook are satisfied with the services you give, you’re not gonna get change… dead people don’t vote!!”
~ Dr. Frank Minyard | Coroner
Frontline: Post Mortem"
When I step out I…
It’s funny how:
Woman does all the necessary preparations to get man. Nails, hair, make-up, clothes, shave or wax, the whole nine yards.
We all take our pics on our phones to show off how good we look when we step out to whatever club or hot spot.
Woman meets man.
Depending on what the woman allows 1 of 2 things can, could or won’t happen.
Depending on the man’s intentions and persistence the possibilities are endless.
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Now why is it later on down the line it is woman who suffers a variety of things? For most, they’re not opportunities to prosperity or a celebration of womanhood but more-so like plucking a card from the deck and figuring out the best option to make due.
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Why is it when woman meets man it seems her options are slim, and when man meets woman his opportunities are endless?
Audition
So yesterday (March 10, 2012) I was at an audition to open up for Calvin Richardson. A lot of times I walk into a situation and I always think what’s a new way I can tackle an audience I don’t know esp. when it’s an intimate setting. Anyway… when I sing I think of myself as being a blessing and inspiration to those I’m performing for. Rarely do “I” leave with such an overwhelming positive feeling of empowerment. I felt like I was at a mini seminar/workshop where we had the finest people in NC & SC exclusively perform and show out!!! There’s so much talent it was unbelievable I’m just glad that I was apart of the entire thing. The judges, audience, and other audition-ers were all very knowledgeable of themselves, the music industry and their overall confidence within themselves. The event was done in decency and in order.
Poverty in America
I am amazed at how, too often we gloat and raise our heads in thinking we are above or we don’t need assistence. I am witnessing an event where low income families are standing in line (here in America-where people come to obtain the American dream) receiving food.
Thanks to the Second Harvest Food Bank of Metrolina these families are able to maintain their standard of living.
Regardless of whatever the case may be we should always be willing to help those in need whether they be in another country or your very own.
However on the contrary, how can you be in a position to help someone if you can’t even help yourself (self evaluation).
You never know you could be one pay check away from being homeless. One tragic event that could put you behind in bills. One careless mistake. One lust away (when buying that thing that you “want” and not necessarily “need”) from being in debt.
Me? I just want to practice being a good steward over what I have. I’ve always had a heart to give and will never stop. If we’re out and about one day and I’m like, “let’s go get something to eat” and you’re like, “I don’t have any money”, I got you. Because if I have you have. I’ve always lived by this policy and I can definitely say that I comes back threefold.
~TT~
Going Natural: Fashion Trend or Lifestyle?
My words: For me going natural is a lifestyle. I was scared out of my mind at the thought of chopping my hair off to almost nothing but I did it (Jan. 2009). It truly was a self confidence thing. Now I’ve come to the realization that I’m beautiful regardless. When I wake up in the morning I exude beauty and confidence within my soul. That’s where it starts on the inside. You have to look in the mirror and see that person that looks back at you. If you can’t even put up with yourself then nobody else will want to.
Some day’s are hit and miss with my hair… but just like anything else in life you live and you learn. There’s always tomorrow to try again. One thing people kept telling me was “you hair will grow back” and it did.
Stay true to you, take care of yourself inside and out.
Site’s words: Where Kinky is Queen | Black Naps
For those who are just trying to fit in with the “trend” or they feel like if they go natural all of sudden they are going to magically grow long Rapunzel like hair, then the reasons for going natural are pretty much pointless. Understanding what you hair needs, how to care for it, and what works for your hair is truly a journey. If you do not know what you are doing you can have unhealthy natural hair that won’t grow, because in its natural state it is still very vulnerable to damage.
People who find themselves just trying to keep up with the trend or are simply focused on having long hair instead of healthy hair may find themselves disappointed. For me, my natural hair is a statement that who I am naturally is beautiful, and I do not have to alter who I am to conform with what society deems as “beautiful”. My journey began way before the natural hair “trend” and it was a critical part in building the person I am today. It help me stabilize a new found confidence because there were no weaves to hide behind, I was showing the world the true me.
It has now become a part of my lifestyle because I realize how much history there is in regards to hair care in the black community. Even if I decided to wear my hair in a straight style I would never return to relaxers again. Not only because of the damage that relaxers cause, but for the simple fact that I don’t feel the need to permanently alter the texture of my hair to be consider “beautiful” or “professional”, whatever the hell that means.
Even if there were a way to straighten my hair permanently through the use of some new found all natural component I wouldn’t do it. Being natural is a way for me to set an example to young black girls and every time I wear a natural style I hope to send a message, black women should be creating their own standard of beauty, not living by what society says is beautiful. What does being natural mean to you?
New Attitude | Easter Sunday 2012
As Easter Sunday is about to end I just want to take the time to write about some of the things I’ve been thinking about this weekend.
I’ve been busy… but in my still moments I just took some time and dove into my memories, through music and pictures.
Today’s message was about how the dark areas in our lives are only temporary. I realized somewhere somehow I’ve just accepted my dark periods as if there was nothing I could do about them. That is not the way it should be. I know for a fact that I’m a fighter but sometimes (and I know you’d agree) fighting, pushing and striving all the time gets tiring!
Life is hard and sometimes the grass is not greener on the other side. One thing I do always whisper to myself deep in my spirit is this too “this moment” shall pass. Nothing lasts forever. There’s a time and a place and it all has a beginning and an end.
Just need to continue to walk in faith regardless of the path that lies ahead of you. New perspective, new attitude!
~TT~
This is how I feel with Art & Music!!!
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